Divorce can be hard on anyone. But a gray divorce can come with some complicated emotions. After spending decades with one person, you don’t always know what the future holds. But like many divorces, moving on, even from something that wasn’t working, isn’t always easy.
Luckily, life after a gray divorce isn’t the end; being happy and fulfilled is still possible. It’s all about taking the necessary steps that turn you in the right direction.
Sometimes the spark doesn’t last
When you married your partner all those years ago, you probably felt intense love and attraction. However, after enduring the ups and downs life can bring, you and your partner have likely changed and no longer meet each other’s needs. Now, you may feel like completely different people, living completely different lives. That’s nothing to feel ashamed of. You can use your divorce to focus on yourself and live the life that you want now.
How can I move on from a decades-long marriage?
- Seek out support: Whether it’s from close friends, family members or a therapist, anyone who lends an open ear can be helpful. It doesn’t matter if you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to do a fun activity with, having a strong network can make a world of difference after going through divorce.
- Exercise regularly: After a divorce, it can be tempting to drown your sorrows in unhealthy habits. However, exercising is a habit that can be beneficial. According to a recent report, exercise can make you feel happier, look better and make you more energetic. It doesn’t have to be a strenuous workout, even just taking a walk every day can be extremely beneficial.
- Get out and volunteer: Helping others is one of the best ways we can help ourselves. While the pandemic may limit the type of volunteer activities you can do, there are still plenty of ways to get out and serve in the community. And who knows, volunteering could lead you to that next special someone.
It’s never too late to start over
Marriage comes with its ups and downs. Just because yours ended doesn’t mean you’ve failed. You still made memories with them that you can cherish for a lifetime. And now, you can look forward to the future for opportunities that lie ahead.