More and more divorcing couples in Texas find it possible to end their marriages in an amicable way. However, to achieve success through divorce mediation or other alternative dispute resolution options, continuing communication is required. Unfortunately, in some circumstances one spouse can start acting in unexpected ways as soon as a divorce is mentioned. One example is a spouse who was never the bullying type turns into a bully in the time leading up to the divorce.
Divorce bullying can take on different forms, and it is often not physical but rather mental. Nobody knows more about a person’s fears and insecurities than a spouse, and bullies tend to use the other spouse’s lack of confidence and doubts as weapons in an attempt to break that person down. The goals of most divorce bullies are to get whatever they want from the divorce and to get it done as quickly as possible.
Divorce bullies are often well-behaved when others are present, saving the psychological battery for times when the couple is alone. Victims may be wise to keep records of all such incidents. Fortunately, they need not endure such treatment alone, as help is available. In some cases, mediation can be the remedy for abusive behavior that only started when divorce proceedings were set in motion. Mediation allows both parties in a divorce to express their viewpoints, and an impartial mediator will encourage open communication and compromise to reach an agreeable divorce settlement.
Retaining the services of an experienced Texas divorce attorney is a good first step. A lawyer can ensure that a divorce bully does not rush things along faster that what is comfortable for the client. With the support of legal counsel, protective steps can be taken, such as a restraining order if necessary. Whether through mediation or litigation, an attorney can protect the rights of the client and focus on achieving a divorce settlement to benefit the client and any children that may be involved.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Coping With a Divorce Bully“, Mel, Dec. 2, 2015
